Happy Friday 04.20.12/50 Life Lessons #3

Hey, combining posts here.  Hope you don't mind.  Okie dokie..... moving right along.

Happy Friday Friends.  Sorry I missed last week's Happy Friday post, but I was in post-op, as in post surgery.  Minor stuff. But the good news is I'm here today and wishing all of you a Happy Friday and an even happier weekend.

Let's dive right in to:

Each week, I'll post a lesson (maybe two) and share my thoughts on how it resonates in my own life.  Perhaps you would like to join along.  Sharing in the comments, or posting on your own blog, and then sharing that link with us here.  I think this book would make an excellent choice for a book club, or the lessons used as retreat topics.  So let's just consider this a cyber book club of sorts.  Ok?  Great! 

Life Lesson #3: Life Is Too Short to Waste Time Hating Anyone

Not really much I can do to expand on this one.  Makes perfectly good sense to me.  And here's an example of how I once tried to teach my son about not hating.  

Several years back we were involved in a nasty lawsuit that lasted a couple of years.  We did the suing as we had no choice in an effort to protect what was ours.  I will tell you that it was one of the most stressful and soul crushing things I have ever been through.  Sure, I was able to find the silver lining, but I wouldn't wish a lawsuit on anyone.  So the lesson I tried to teach my son....  One day he said to me, "I bet you hate so-and-so (no real names used here)" to which I replied, "No son, I don't hate so-and-so.  There is nothing to be gained in hating someone, and it would only prove to deplete even further the energy I have to get through this most difficult time in my life."  

I went on to explain that when we hate, when we allow ourselves to feel hate in our hearts, we only hurt ourselves. One of my most favorite people in the world, His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama, is known for his absolute uselessness for hate.  He believes in combating hate with compassion.  

Can you have compassion for your enemies?  For those that have hurt you to your core?  Sure you can.  You just have to make that choice.  I find that when I feel a little hate creeping into my heart, if I can shift to a feeling of compassion for that person, I can let the hate go.  So the next time that you find yourself starting to hate, try to replace it with compassion for that someone.  I'm not suggesting that you have to like this someone, or what they have done or are doing.  I'm only suggesting that you refuse to let hate drive your actions and dominate your emotions.  Believe me, that person could really care less if you hate them.  It only gives them power to hurt you more.  

So instead of hating anyone, hate Brussel sprouts.  Or sauerkraut.